positive-suggest:

too poor to afford a nice phone? own it. that’s your thing now. you have an old phone model and its an aesthetic now because u made it that way. too poor to afford cute clothes or good makeup? or you just don’t know how to dress well? own it. you’re killing it with that hand-me-down pair of jeans and an upcycled t-shirt with socks that don’t match and messy eyeshadow. that’s cool. that’s punk rock. you’re awesome. you don’t have to feel ashamed for not having what others have or for not fitting in. you’re unique and that’s cool. you’re okay just as you are and you don’t have to change. you can have quirks. you can have weird/gross habits. you’re human. own it.

How to be More Thick-Skinned

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Don’t take criticism personally. Instead, realize that criticism says more about them than it does about you.

2. Distinguish between facts and subjectivity. Most criticisms are just personal opinions. They are not objective and they don’t reflect the truth.

3. Look at the beliefs you hold about yourself. Do you feel defensive and under attack because you don’t believe in yourself?

4. Learn what you can from any comments that are made – and discard the rest as being useless information.

5. Decide not to ruminate on barbs or criticisms - as that will reinforce the faulty message in your brain.

6. Choose to spend more time with people who’re affirming – and minimise the time you spend with those who put you down.

7. Look for a role model who can handle criticism – and try to copy them, so you become more thick skinned, too.

themacklemorebrothers:

when i was depressed those “reasons not to kill yourself” lists never helped.. maybe they do for some people but for me they actually made me feel worse. it was like….here’s a reminder that there are all these things other people find joy in that you can’t. with a sprinkle of guilt because “your family/friends will miss you.”

what i needed to hear, and so what i’ll tell any of you reading this who are in the same situation, was: a lot of people recover from mental illness and go on to live full lives. it’s quite likely that with treatment, a time will come when you won’t want to die anymore and you’ll find joy in everyday life. yes, you. stay alive for that possibility.

bookswinalways:

studying in the law library • pembroke college, cambridge • summer 2018

artisticlog:

Face everything and rise ✨

How to Make Yourself Do What You Don’t Want To Do

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Rather than listening to the voice in your head that is screaming “I hate this; I don’t want to do this” think about why it is a GOOD thing to do.

2. Instead of trying to pretend that you don’t feel this way, accept that you are feeling very blah and negative.

3. Don’t think about results and how well you think you’ll do, as this could raise your feelings of anxiety and fear, just think about “right now” and the first thing you can do.

4. Accept that life is tough, and is full of things that suck – but recognise that doing hard stuff is better in the end. You’ll likely have more choices and freedom, if you do.

5. Just do a little bit for now – then give yourself a proper break – then go back and do some more – and soon you’ll find you’re in the flow.

6. Don’t allow your mind to wander and think of other things. Stay focused for that short time – and then stop, and have fun.

aidashakur:

don’t carry that hurt into 2019 or it’s going be another toxic year.